Breaking the Stereotypes
Peeling the Onion: The Showgirl vs. The Stigma
Over the last few weeks, the “elephant in the room” has been following me around. Despite how I conduct myself, the shadow of a tired, dusty stereotype occasionally tries to dim my light. It’s time to peel back a few layers of the onion and talk about what it actually means to be a modern Showgirl.
I have always prided myself on my “Elite” status. My stage isn’t just a platform; it’s a high-production theater. I think in terms of Las Vegas—huge, exquisite costumes, fire performing, aerial hoop, and the kind of high-octane showmanship that leaves an audience breathless. Beyond the stage, I am a creator: a singer-songwriter who managed her own band, a stunt performer in the film industry, and a personal trainer who designs roadmaps for other people’s transformations.
What I love about this career isn’t just the applause. It’s the Sweet Spot—that electric moment of total connection where I am an empowered woman, fully tapped into my sensuality and athleticism, inviting the audience on an erotic journey. I’m not some “dysfunctional party girl” running from a broken past. I come from a foundation of love. I am a national-level natural athlete. I am a businesswoman first, and an artist second.
The “Gifts” and the Great Divide
Recently, a comment sparked this fire in me. Someone suggested that receiving gifts or having a “wishlist” equated to being a high-priced escort. At first, I laughed—it was so profoundly ignorant. There is an epic difference between an elite, headlining performer doing gravity-defying acrobatics in a costume that costs more than most people’s cars, and the world of sex work.
In this business, “fans” are exactly that: fans. They express appreciation for the art, the inspiration, and the show. I make more than enough money to buy my own damn diamonds—and I do. But when a fan wants to offer a gesture of gratitude, it’s about the connection to the performance, not a transaction for intimacy.
I value myself far too highly for that. I am traditional where it counts. I don’t believe sex is “just sex.” I believe in meaningful intimacy, in honoring the temple of the self, and sharing that only when there is something more involved. I am provocative on the stage, but I am private in my heart.
The Era of “EmpowHer”
Interestingly, my front rows are often filled with screaming women—and I love it. I once had a male customer assume they must all be lesbians. I just giggled and told him, “Yes! Maybe a few! But also, it’s just girls celebrating sexiness and power.”
We are in a “Girl Power” era. These women aren’t there to judge; they’re there to be inspired. They see their own sensuality reflected in my confidence. By being authentic, I’m helping to dismantle the very stigma that tries to categorize us.
The Statistics I Refused to Become
People have been betting against me my entire life.
* The “Welfare” Prediction: When I became a young mother, they said I’d be a statistic and my modeling career was dead. By 21, I owned my own home and vehicle, traveled the world, and raised a son who remains the greatest achievement of my life.
* The “Cut-throat” Band: They said I’d never make it in music. A year later, my band was performing for Jay Leno on The Tonight Show, on E! T.V. with multiple interviews on the radio and in print, building up a solid fan base where we held our own shows.
* The “Man’s Industry”: They said I couldn’t move up in the fitness industry, it was all male managers, don’t even try. I became the top producer in three months and a manager in six.
* The “Political” Stage: They said a Canadian girl would never win a major US title. I went down there and took home Miss Nude USA, along with a slew of other titles, simply because my show was too big to ignore.
Happiness is an Inside Job
If there is one thing this journey has taught me, it’s that your opinion of me is none of my business. Authentic living is the road less traveled, and while people love to preach about “following your heart,” they are often the first to throw stones when you actually do it.
I don’t live to make others comfortable with my choices, nor do I try to convince them to change their opinions of what I do. But I do like to educate people so they can make an informed opinion opposed to one based out of ignorance. I live in alignment with my passion. When you are truly happy, that energy becomes a magnet. People might not always love the path you took, but they love how they feel when they are around your light.
Never judge a book by its cover. You might just miss out on the most interesting story you’ve ever read.
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