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Breaking the Stereotypes

As many of you know, there is a stereotypical perception around exotic dancers and I feel like addressing that today. For the most part, I have been extremely fortunate to have been shielded from this stigma, I believe it’s because of how I conduct myself and my business, however, I haven’t been completely except and seeing that this is an ongoing issue that affects everyone in the biz, it’s time to share a little, uncover a few layers of the onion.

I’ve ALWAYS prided myself in my showgirl status, performing elite shows with huge, exquisite costumes combined with many specialty skills such as fire, aerials, pole and showmanship; like something you’d think you see in Las Vegas. I LOVE entertaining and connecting with audiences and have always gravitated towards creative facets, such as music-having my own band which I managed and was a singer/songwriter for, acting and stunting in the film industry, writing, personal training (inspiring and designing programs for people to help them reach their goals) and of course, dancing.211-jericho-green-997

What I LOVE about my showgirl career, let me count the ways lol: Embodying feminine energy and confidence and exuberating that energy on stage through the art of creating an erotic journey, the athletics I demonstrate with pole fitness, dance ability and circus skills, creating characters that audiences with love and connect with, designing the music that takes my audience through a playful and entertaining experience, developing shows that are creative with props and special effects that people want to come back in to be a part of the experience, that ‘Sweet Spot’ when I am completely connected to the audience, being able to fill a room and most importantly INSPIRE people around the globe through my own story and performances!

See, so far there’s more than meets the eye, even in the driving motivations behind creating the shows. I am an empowered woman who is tapped into her sensuality, sexuality, feminity and have chosen the stage as my platform and playground to demonstrate that. I am not some dysfunctional party girl, using drugs and alcohol, being promiscuous and that has daddy issues LOL I come from a loving and supportive family, I am a national level, natural athlete, I have excelled in 2 other careers and have a long list of accolades. I am a business woman first, creative artist second. And I’m not the only one! Many girls in this industry have interesting stories to share.

What had prompted me to write this blog was a random comment made from someone in regards to being a high priced escort from having a wishlist and receiving gifts from customers…at first I completely dismissed this because it was SO stupid and ignorant I didn’t think people actually would believe that. I mean, dancing on stage in an glamorous, expensive costume, performing acrobatics and high energy dance routines where NO ONE can touch you is completely different from having sex with strangers for money and gifts…Not to mention if I or any other elite, headlining, showgirl had that reputation you would NOT be booked. Venues do not want that behavior attached to their name. It is frowned upon. CLEARLY people understand the EPIC difference…I mean, I make more than enough money to buy my own damn gifts! And I do! But in this biz your fans sometimes want to express their appreciation, so it is common to receive things as well but without any intention whatsoever in the sex department.1398226_1504910176435221_4117733367774695836_o

But nope, this person in the beginning really did question that. I guess the being naked part equalled being openly sexual, too lol quite honestly, I VALUE myself, I have deep self-worth and self-love and am traditional in the intimacy department. I DON’T believe in just giving yourself to anyone. I don’t believe that sex is just sex. I believe in honouring yourself and sharing yourself with someone you have mutual feelings for. Meaningful sex only. So yes, provocative on stage, more traditional in my private life.

What’s also interesting is that I have more female followers than I do male. And many of these young girls and women are inspired by the energy I project, for I think they feel their own sensuality, desire and feminine energy heighten from my reflection, I have explained this before. I had a full front row of screaming ladies (not uncommon for me) and a male customer made a comment about how all the women were lesbians.  “Maybe a few!, “ I replied with a giggle, “But the majority, nope, just women out showing their appreciation for anot12717816_1673355952950237_2100761484536767424_nher woman’s sexiness and sensuality. It is a girl power era! I love it! It definitely helps break down that stigma over dancers because women can come into clubs and see for themselves what goes on.

I have never felt the need to hide what I do. In certain situations I may be more discreet but for the most part, I am proud of my accomplishments and what this career has done for me. Being authentic doesn’t come from what you do, it comes from who you are and when you are being true to yourself, you are being authentic, and when you are being authentic, you will flow that into what you do. So many people talk about taking the road less traveled, be yourself, follow your heart but many of those same people are the first to judge you when you do.  I personally don’t care, I am a self-made woman and a successful one at that. I wouldn’t be here if I listened to other people’s judgments and opinions. Their opinions of me are none of my business. It’s their issue, not mine and I don’t make it mine.

When I conceived my son at a young age everyone said that if I kept him, I wouldn’t make it, I’d become another welfare statistic and my modelling career would be over…I owned my first house and vehicle by the time I was 21, traveled the world, had tons of modelling jobs and a successful band but most importantly, he was the BEST thing that has ever happened to me and he makes me proud everyday. We DID make it, above and beyond what even I thought I could do.

When I decided to put a band together, everyone sagforceid that it was a cut throat industry, you’ll never make it, why don’t you get a ‘real’ job…. a year later we sang for Jay Leno on the Tonight Show, were on the front page of the newspaper, appeared on E.TV, Global Television, Shaw TV, Online TV and had several publications. When I decided to work in a gym I was told it was a man’s industry, don’t bother trying to move up….within 3 months I was the top producer in the company and in 6 months I moved into management.12109090_1633703310248835_1187069398559936134_n

When I decided to compete in a fitness competition, everyone said I wouldn’t win, it’s political, you need to pay your dues….and I won my first show. When I was going down to the States to compete in dancing contests everyone said they will never let a Canadian win one of their contests, I not only won 2 big titles, one of them being Miss Nude USA (yes, this Canadian girl won a US title…clearly it wasn’t political LMAO I just did the biggest show, a show that couldn’t lose) but also a slew of mini titles!!1512425_1594429084149996_4417752392969678224_n

These are just a few examples of where I’ve been and what I’ve done. There are so many more lol but I’ll share these ones with you for now. If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that happiness is an inside job. You cannot make anyone else happy or accept you for who you are…and that’s OK. It’s not about making everyone else happy it’s about making yourself happy. And when you are in alignment with your passions and journey, your happiness with be felt by those around you and though they still might not love your choices, they might not battle with you on them because they like how they feel when they around your positive, authentic vibes. And for those who don’t, it’s their loss, not yours.

mnusa2ahhh delving deep! And there are other ladies with stories just as thick, if not more. Never judge a book by it’s cover, you just might miss how interesting the story really is.IMG_20150915_013838


TORTOLA Chapter 2-Introducing Kelly, Chuck n the Party Girl Yacht!

So here I was in the British Virgin Islands, soaking up everything it had to offer from the beautiful sun, to eating fish right out of the ocean to the wonderful island people and their culture and loving every minute of it. Now I understand the meaning of, “Ire mon, ire.” lol Work was alright, not exactly my cup of tea but I made it work for me. Then one night I was intrigued when I caught a glance of another hot blond in the bar…not only blond but platinum, with a fitness physique. Feeling slightly territorial (I grew accustomed to the notoriety of being the only blond, white woman on the island lol Tortola isn’t known for having a lot of tourists as some of the other Virgin Islands) I wanted to see who this mystery lady was and why was she on Tortola?! Not to mention I thought it was crazy that I felt like I was looking at my own reflection! Hmm….was their a connection? Time to investigate!

Once I made my way over to her table to introduce myself I notice that she had slipped away for a moment leaving a male companion just sitting by himself. I introduce myself and we start to chat while waiting for her to come back. Then Kelly comes over to table, introduces herself and makes room for a big bottle of champagne heading towards the table. As we all engage in conversation we all just connected instantly. Kelly and I did have so many parallels in our lives and it started to feel like we knew each other forever. And her partner, Chuck, was also such a down to earth, charismatic man and we all enjoyed just hanging out for the evening sharing stories and sipping some bubbly.

Kelly prefers hanging out in strip clubs cuz of the laid back atmosphere; she used to be a dancer herself and enjoyed the environment so that’s why they ended up at this club oppose to somewhere else. Kelly and Chuck were quick to make friends with the club owners and a few other people and we all decided to meet the next afternoon for a few drinks at a local sports bar. They would be in Tortola for the week and it’d be nice to hang out with people that you get along with so well. After a few days of getting together, Kelly invited me along with a few other staff members from the club to go boating the following afternoon. “Sure! I’d love to!” The next afternoon we all go to the dock to meet Kelly and Chuck and were a little surprised that they weren’t there. In their place were two men in a speedboat who told us to hop on, they were bringing us to where Kelly and Chuck were. I thought that was a little strange for a day of ‘boating’ but just went with it.

Well as we’re ripping through the Caribbean Ocean we start to slow down. We began to come closer and closer to a yacht…a 146 ft yacht…with a crew of 9 people and the name, ‘Party Girl” written across the side. I was thinking to myself, “NO WAY. WTF, seriously?” and then started laughing to myself. Sure enough THIS was our stop! As the two crew men help me on to the yacht there’s Kelly ready to greet us in her see through purple shirt with pasties on underneath and the tiniest g-string I’ve ever seen. As soon as I see her I burst out laughing and say, “Nice ‘boating’ Kell. I like your ‘boating’. I’m thinking Sea Doo, maybe a little speed boat, that to me is boating LOL Anyways, I like your boat.” 😛

She smiles at me and directs me into the living room to get a drink while waiting for everyone else to get on board. I later learn that Chuck was an extremely successful owner of a well known franchise. It was a pleasant surprise. Honestly, it was nice and refreshing to meet someone of his success and stature  and how incredibly humble, kindhearted and fun he was. Let the partee` begin!!

For the rest of the night we all had such an amazing time, diving off the yacht, hottub, tubing, jello shots, pole dancing, eating, eating and more eating. I did run into a bit of an issue with a guy who had really taken a liking to me. He started following me around and almost was at the point of being a little aggressive and was agitated that I didn’t share the same feelings he had. As the party was winding down on some of the ship and winding up on the other ;), Kelly and Chuck snook me into a more private area where I’d be away from that guy and where we could just relax from all the people who were starting get unmanageable, a lil wild and wasted. WaaaWaaa! lol

We ended up laughing the night away and deepening the friendship we were already building. When the morning came Kelly and Chuck invited me to stay onboard and sail with them to St. Maarten where they were meeting 5 of their friends from Florida to spend the weekend there. Something in me just said YES! Usually I’m quite guarded and would never sail with strangers lol But I did feel a good vibe and there were going to be 14 other people onboard as well, so I felt pretty safe. And of course I called home to let my family know where and who I was with. And that was it for my work stay in Tortola. My contract was coming to an end anyway so the timing couldn’t have been better. I briefly got off the yacht, went straight to my room, packed my things and was off on yet another magical adventure! Chapter 3 COMING SOON!